Category Archives: Motherhood

Inflexible Yoga Teacher

IMG_0596Photo: Nikki Veliz (juggling an ipad, a 20 month old girl & a potty)

I would love to be posting a photo of me doing some spectacularly flexible yoga pose at Machu Picchu but I was too busy juggling a 20 month old girl that was in clambering mode, her potty and realising waaaaaaay too late that I had missed my own toilet opportunity (and yes I considered using the potty!). Plus, I can’t touch my toes so you won’t see me in bendy poses. And yes, I’m a yoga teacher!

I wanted to remind you today that yoga isn’t being about being flexible. It really isn’t. Just as practicing meditation isn’t about sitting lotus style for hours. Don’t let the ‘images’ of yoga and meditation be a reason to avoid a yoga or meditation class. I love what Cyndi Lee says about yoga: “Yoga is not about touching your toes. It’s about unlocking your ideas about what you want, where you think you can go, and how you will achieve when you get there.” Nice.

If you are new to meditation but don’t know where to start, lie down (yes, LIE DOWN yay!) and listen to this free 10 minute guided meditation (no lotus-style anything!).

 

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Looking After Yourself

It sounds selfish right? It’s not. If you don’t look after yourself (whatever that means to you) then you don’t have much ‘to give’. You inherently know this. You feel this. And I know there are a lot of reasons as to why you don’t prioritise yourself. I have been there (burnout first time round) and I have been there again (you need an MRI because we think you’ve had a stroke) plus all the other ‘niggles’ that are a drain on you and others around you (soooo tired, no energy, not fun to be around, my back hurts).

Last night I wrote my ‘to do list’ for today a different way:

  • 5 minute cardio workout (yes, 5mins!) while my toddler eats brekky
  • Montessori Toddler/Parent group 0930-1130
  • 10 minute meditation while my toddler naps
  • Plan-free afternoon except pick up some milk
  • 10 minute home pilates after my toddler goes to bed

What are you going to do today that is JUST for you? Something that makes you FEEL GOOD? Please leave your 1 ‘just for me’ thing in the comments section. Would love to have more ideas!

Sleep Deprived Moms

If you are looking for a community of sleep deprived moms head over and like this Facebook group: Sleep Deprived Moms.

If you are a sleep deprived mom (or know one!) looking for support and ideas to have more energy, sleep better and feel good, I’d love to see you in our recently formed group.

xxx

When you want to scream!

Oh how I wanted to scream back at my 2yo having an epic meltdown in our bedroom this morning. Cause of epic meltdown? She couldn’t decide what to wear. It took over half an hour to get dressed for her music class (I say class but really it’s lots of running around, pretending to be trains, a jam session and sneaking into each others bags to find food).

I picked her off our wooden floorboards half naked and held her. Even though I wanted to scream, I let out 3 loud long OMs instead (stuff the neighbours!). She went quiet and hugged me back. Wow. I’ve tried the screaming back – who hasn’t in that crazy moment? – and it DOES NOT FEEL GOOD. And it definitely doesn’t result in a ‘huggie’ from my daughter. I’m so thankful I found yoga even though for a LONG time I did not do ‘that omming thing’. I thought it was too woo-woo. I also thought meditation was too woo-woo for me! But it is the flow on effects of taking up yoga and I love it. If you have 10 minutes, try this non-woowoo guided meditation I have made. It’s free AND you get to lie down. If you don’t have 10 minutes but need a lift or a release of some kind? Try the loud OMs – the louder and longer the better in the crazy moments 😉

Falling Asleep Meditating?

I got up early again this morning to try & recapture what I did yesterday. It didn’t work. I started to fall asleep while I was meditating! This is not the first time and it definitely won’t be the last. This is just one of those things that meditators can struggle with and it’s ok. I often listen to a guided meditation where I can lie down on the floor and close my eyes. And if I fall asleep? It’s what my body needed. If you are struggling to stay awake during meditation, why not try my free guided meditation? It’s just under 10 minutes and all you have to do is lie down and close your eyes! https://nikkiveliz.leadpages.co/energyhit/

Meditation Helps You When Your Child Melts Down

This is virtually unheard of but I got up at 5am today. What better time to practice some gentle yoga (hello spine!) and meditate given I’m already up huh? I’m so glad I did. If I had waited until when my toddler does her mid-day nap to meditate, I would surely have lost it when my toddler had her epic meltdown today (not fitting into a pair of shoes she covets is devastating for her!). But my meditation session this morning (I call it session, let’s say maximum 10 minutes!) had me prepared and gave me ‘space’ to help her cope with her big emotions. We need to ‘be there’ when our children don’t know what to do with their emotions. But hey, I rarely get up that early so I rely heavily on a 10 minute guided relaxation during the day, like the one I have made here and is free to anyone who needs a quick break.